Emotional Intelligence
What is Emotional Intelligence?
Emotional Intelligence (EI): The ability to manage one’s feelings and emotions and react positively with other people.
“Emotional intelligence is a way of recognizing, understanding, and choosing how we think, feel, and act. It shapes our interactions with others and our understanding of ourselves. It defines how and what we learn; it allows us to set priorities; it determines the majority of our daily actions. Research suggests it is responsible for as much as 80 percent of the “success” in our lives.”
-Joshua Freedman
Importance and Benefits of EI
The importance of building emotional intelligence (EI) is imperative to a military child’s future academic, social and career successes. When youth are intentionally provided opportunities to build their emotional intelligence (EI) skills, they become more knowledgeable, responsible, reflective, empathetic, and considerate life-long contributors of their communities.
Learning how to identify and express one’s emotions builds character and resilience essential for future academic, life, and future career success. A high EI is associated with a positive sense of self and one who intentionally practices self-care routines necessary to build social and emotional awareness. Students who learn how to manage their feelings and emotions are likely to communicate clearly and assertively, resolve conflicts creatively, handle stress, and act with integrity in all areas of their lives (Elias and Tobias, 2018).
Components of Emotional Intelligence:
The CASEL 5 areas of concentration are interrelated emotional intelligence competencies to include:
- Self-Awareness
- Self-Management
- Social Awareness
- Social Skills
- Responsible Decision-making.
These emotional intelligence competencies can be taught and applied throughout the human lifespan, developmental stages, and across diverse cultural contexts. High emotional intelligence is tied to a positive sense of self and one’s ability to experience meaningful relationships, academic success, school and civic involvement, strong familial relationships, overall health and well-being all leading to fulfilling futures and careers (Drigas & Papoutsi, 2018)
Emotional Intelligence Apps and Games
This collection of top-notch apps and games will help students with everything from anger management to emotion identification to meditation.Social and Emotional Learning Kit for Parent Champions
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The Field Guide to the Military Teen
A guide to military teens by military teens for communities with military teens.Social-Emotional Development: Family Resources
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You’ll find a wide array of free EQ resources for supporting emotional intelligence and social-emotional learning in your home, schools,…Emotional ABCs
Teach your child how to manage emotions and make good choices even during emotionally challenging situations.The Family Dinner Project
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Integrated Learning, Integrated Lives
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District Resource Center – Casel
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Fundamentals of SEL
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Insights from the Transformative SEL (tSEL) Adult Learning Series PilotSEL Policy at the Federal Level
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