Self Awareness
“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.”
– Aristotle
SELF-AWARENESS: The ability to understand one’s own emotions, thoughts, and values and how they influence behavior across contexts.
Self-awareness is knowledge of how you are feeling in various situations and the ability to accurately label those feelings. This includes the ability to recognize one’s strengths and limitations with a sense of confidence and purpose. The process of learning how one thinks is called metacognition. When military children begin to understand the process of how they think, they will be able to better understand and label their feelings and manage their emotions and reactions in particular situations. Having a strong sense of self-awareness helps students to achieve academic success, manage stress, problem solve, set appropriate goals, learn how to develop healthy relationships, and how to interact in social situations.
CASEL describes self-awareness:
- Integrating personal and social identities
- Identifying personal, cultural, and linguistic assets
- Identifying one’s emotions
- Demonstrating honesty and integrity
- Linking feelings, values, and thoughts
- Examining prejudices and biases
- Experiencing self-efficacy
- Having a growth mindset
- Developing interests and a sense of purpose
“Labeling emotions accurately increases self-awareness and helps us to communicate emotions effectively, reducing misunderstanding in social interactions.”
– Mark Brackett
Feelings Color Zones
Labeling feelings is part of proven strategies that increase emotional regulation. “If you can name it, you can tame it!”Your BEST Communication Skills
Using your BEST communication skills means using assertive body language, eye contact, speech, and tone of voice.Emotion Wheel
A study by The Greater Good Science Center suggests there are 27 distinct emotions. With so many emotions, how can…Personality Quiz
This quick, fun test gives you some insight into what kind of personality you have.Emotional Vocabulary Quiz
This quiz will give you practice thinking about words for specific feelings and times someone might experience those feelings.Seeing, Showing, Sharing Emotions
Help your children express themselves with a strong feelings vocabulary.Expressing Emotions
Learn five easy ways to encourage children to share their feelings with you.Taking Care of Yourself
Remember to take care of yourself, so you can be the best caregiver for your child.Feelings Color Zones
Labeling feelings is part of proven strategies that increase emotional regulation. “If you can name it, you can tame it!”Coping Through the Levels of Anger and Aggression
We all feel angry at times, but the goal is to feel content, satisfied, or grateful.EQ Quiz for Students
EQ is something that can be learned and improved upon. This “quiz” helps form an idea of where a student…Student EQ: Group Leader Assessment
This is a companion form to the “EQ Quiz for Students” and can be filled out as an assessment (or…Follow-Up Meeting Questionnaire
Holding a follow-up meeting within two weeks of completing the EQ lessons is a powerful way to reinforce and sustain…References:
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